Hesitation. An ugly ten letter word, if I’m being honest.
Used to describe the pause we place in our lives when we’ve come to the realization that a change is necessary, it can become our Achilles heel.
Yes, it’s my opinion that in those moments hesitation is a weakness. It becomes this wall that stops your personal progress.
Hesitation stems from believing that change is outside of yourself (when it really isn’t). You think an external circumstance must take place before you can act upon your desire to change. Therefore, you pause, hesitate. You might even pray for an opportunity to turn up, for someone to change, or for God to give you an answer to all the hows that turn up in your mind.
Your hesitation becomes nothing but a waiting game. And for some, the game never ends.
But did you ever stop to think that perhaps the change you desire is closer than you thought? And that all you need to do is one single thing: commit. Prove to the world (and the energy all around us) that you desire something different and something different will appear.
Commitment is the Enemy of Hesitation
Our fear of the unknown and not seeing the possibilities (the how) keep us in a hesitant state. We continue to dream about how nice it would be to work less or to pursue something we enjoy (traveling, writing, painting, singing, dancing, you name it) instead of actually doing it.
But once you commit to a change, and take baby steps toward that outcome, doors start to open. It’s as if by magic the world lines everything up so that one thing unveils itself after another.
You can pray all you want and God (or the Universe, whichever you prefer) is there ready to deliver, but He’s waiting for you to show that you’re ready. For my religious readers, recall how the Bible talks about God giving us the power of our own free will. You can’t be forced to act on any idea, no matter how profound. You and only you have the power to step up and do the necessary (and vital) first step: commit.
Clear Hesitation and the Hows will Unfold
Hesitation says to the universe that you haven’t yet decided or made a definite conclusion. Commitment, on the other hand, says you are ready to try something new and is the single thing the Universe (God) waits for before it starts to send you the support you need to keep moving down this new path.
I’ve watched this unfold numerous times in my life. They say “when the student is ready, the teacher appears.” Every time I’ve ever taken a stand and said this thing needs to change, I’ve magically stumbled across the right people, books, emails, podcasts or social media posts. And the single common denominator across all circumstances has been my transition from a hesitant, I’m-not-sure state to one of committed action.
And, honestly, this way makes sense. How practical would it be if information came to us when we weren’t ready or interested? There is no coincidence that you turn away from one voice yet are attracted to another – it all depends on if the message aligns with the change or direction your life is currently moving. If you’re not ready to hear the message, you roll your eyes and ignore it, brush it off. But once you are ready, then you’ll listen.
Listen with an Open Mind
The second you tell yourself (commit) that you want to change some aspect of your life because you’re tired of wasting time waiting, life will present opportunities to you along those lines. You just have to be open-minded to seeing the new information as what you asked for and trust that somehow it could lead down that path you’re seeking.The trick is to ignore your desire to know how. If you hold on to this idea that something has to go a specific way, you prevent what you desire from turning up. Remember, there are numerous ways to get to your desired result.
It reminds me of that tale of a person who prayed for God to save them from drowning. Three different attempts were made by rescuers of different forms, yet the individual turned them all away, stating “God will save me.” Well, this person died and when he (or she) met God, he asked Him why he didn’t save him. God explained that it was He who sent those rescuers to him.
Since the person was waiting on “God” to show up, he was blinded to the other help and opportunities to be saved, not taking into consideration that perhaps God was the one sending the rescuers his way. Don’t blind yourself to receiving the help and answers that you seek just because the packaging isn’t as expected.
Change need not be harder than it already is. Once you’ve uncovered the desire to make a change, don’t allow yourself to get stuck in the hesitation stage. Take one small action step at a time, moving you toward the positive change. Just remember to commit to it. You can always change your commitment later if it doesn’t go how you’d hoped. (Read my post on how change isn’t permanent.)