Your life does not end when you become a mother. In fact, it’s just the opposite. The world of parenting is vast and until you become a parent, you don’t really realize how much you’ll learn in the process. Every time a new situation arises, you learn from it, you grow.
But what what happens if a mom doesn’t feel like she’s growing?
I’ve been a stay at home mom, a working mom, and a work from home mom over the course of my mommy career, and I know exactly how it feels when your personal growth is at a standstill. You wonder about your purpose and if you’re doing the right thing with your career (or lack thereof). When you feel like there could be room for improvement in your life, the absolute best way that I’ve found to feel unstuck is to pursue knowledge. This can be done is several ways depending on what you feel you need help with.
I’m a big fan of self-help books in such areas as parenting, personal finances, marriage, business, and entrepreneurship. No matter what the topic, I’m sure you’ll find a book about it. We all can benefit so much from the knowledge of others.
Some topics can only be extensively learned about through degree programs at colleges and universities, such as the knowledge required to become a doctor or a lawyer. If you’ve been thinking about growing in your career, research the schools in your area for the types of programs available for study. Also, research how much the programs cost and if there are scholarships and loans available to you. If you don’t seek to know what all is involved in a career field your interested in, how do you expect to make an appropriate decision to switch? If the career you seek will require a degree that you cannot pursue right away, make a plan and a timeline for when you’ll be able to. Planning future self growth is a great motivator and way to improve your mood and spirits about your current circumstances.
You might be surprised at the topics that you can study online for little to no cost. Several years ago, I took a writing course on children’s literature and the experience was great for boosting my confidence in my writing abilities. Writing is an area that I’ve always enjoyed and taking a formal course helped build upon what I’d already learned in college. If you have a passion for something, I encourage you to research the online courses available – if there aren’t any local classes you can participate in.
I’m aware that craft store chains have sewing classes and home improvement stores hold how-to sessions on a regular basis. You can also visit the community bulletin board at your local library to see what other types of free classes are offered. The last time I went to the library, a gentleman told me about an upcoming meeting that would teach parents about how to cook healthier meals for their kids. I could not attend that one, but I was thrilled that my community had outreach programs like that to help educate parents. Don’t forget to research local sports groups and fitness classes. Physical fitness knowledge is just as important as any other knowledge you wish to seek.
Why Learning Helps You Be A Better Mom
You might be wondering how learning anything other than stuff about parenting could help you be a better mom. Firstly, being a mom is so much more than nurturing and parenting your kids: you have to nurture and take care of yourself, too. Here’s what I’ve learned:
If you’ve ever flown on an airplane, you know that the appropriate procedure for putting on oxygen masks is to put yours on first, then your child’s. When you don’t care for yourself, you don’t have the energy to care for them appropriately. Research says that taking regular breaks to do things for yourself improves your mood and thus makes you a calmer, gentler mother.
Children need a role model to show them that when life needs answers, they should seek to find them. Or how about when your life needs a positive change? They need to see that you’ll do anything to make your life better. Wouldn’t you want your kids to do that for themselves? Your life is no different.
I know that my kids are paying very, very close attention to what I do and because they are watching, I need to be a good role model for them. If they have questions about anything, I want them to know that they can come to me and I’ll help them find out the answers if I don’t know them. Kids love learning because the whole world is new to them and they are curious about it all. I don’t want my kids to feel like learning stops when they finish school. I want them to know that they will still wonder as adults about how stuff works and that it’s okay to pursue knowledge.
Between seeking out a new religion to formal education in financial planning, having children never stopped me from pursuing more information about topics that interested me and I feel as though I’m a much better mom for all that I’ve learned.
Do you feel your parenting has benefited from pursuing knowledge?